Sexuality -> Early Sexuality

 EARLY SEXUALITY

 It’s amazing how the children’s naivety about their sexuality beginning to show itself could throw the grownups out of whack. This is so because most grownups literally refuse sexuality in childhood.  
 The vast majority wouldn’t know how to go about sexual issues, on top of handled the demands in face of the children’s curiosity as they stumbled upon sexuality pathways.
 A great many out there still refuse to let their kids (boys) playing with dolls or girls` games, afraid that they might turn the other way. Others won’t dare to let their kids alone, playing doctors and nurses.
 As per qualms in adulthood come, to my understanding; lingered to the frame of mind that the relatives themselves understood and reacted upon dealing with their own sexual awareness in childhood, so much for the sprees of traumas and abuses undergone then.
 There’ll be certain sexual instances cited that could become thought provoking to some.  
 A couple waited till their son fell asleep to have good times rolled, and in the heat of the moment forgot to lock the door. The kid wakes up suddenly, catches them right at it and goes-Dad you gonna kill mum this way.
 Another awkward situation- a girl sensed that her mother goes through major mood swings during PMS. One day when not feeling so well dad approached her and asks what’s going on with her. Outspokenly she replies – nothing dad, it’s just my period.
 A boy asks his mother where babies come. The mother forwards tenderly that his daddy cover her with kisses. Next thing she knows the boy covers her with kisses saying that now he’s gonna get a little brother for himself.
 At the playground, mothers and nannies chat along while keeping an eye on the children. All of sudden they realized that some children who got into the doll house are taking too long to come out. Coming to check on it find out that the boys and girls are showing each other’s genitals and comparing differences.
 A casual situation, but not so unlikely to strike the relatives dumb, is when either or both come to the room and catch their son or daughter on masturbation.  
 Within my clinical practice these and other likely situations arise leaving many relatives concerned as to how it should be tackled.
 The usual stuff reported are rows, condemnation (sinful-naughty) and retaliation (there’d be repercussions if done again) and even threats and bashing (the dog would get it if done again, next it falls off).
 Trust me this one, such attitudes aren’t the best way forward.
 The best approach or ways for a grownup would be never to suppress the sexuality of a child. Next, would be acting out naturally as reliable. Third, respect towards their maturity, intelligence and time. By last, to give sharp, right to the point answers that would suffice right then, just that question.
 Within childhood innocence, cleverness and curiosity go alongside each other, hence the way through which the relatives indulged themselves would imply in the way the tomorrow’s grownup would deal with his sexuality.

K.C.B
Sexologist


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